I am reading a book titled “Don’t Marry” by James W Donovan and it’s been an interesting revelation. First of all, my male friends think am going through a crisis. What’s with all this women stuff and marriage and relationships and relationship help books? I try to play it off by insulting them and threatening to troll them online.
The truth is, I am not going through a crisis – I hope. The way you read a manual when you buy a new piece of tech to enlighten yourself, I am doing the same. The secrets, knowledge, and wisdom hidden in book pages are phenomenal.
In one of the chapters of “Don’t Marry” they mention how you cannot have everything in a partner. If you choose looks and beauty, chances are you will not get the best of characters. If you choose characters, the reverse is true. Although there are special cases where you get the “miracle” package and the one you choose has both. That has happened, NEVER! There is always a struggle, however, slight or tolerable.
Essentially what this book says is, prioritize what’s important to you and choose that but be sure you can handle what the person lacks. Be sure you can deal with their below average character or their unpleasant looks. Average looks are often compensated by great personalities and average personalities by great looks. However, if you were born at sunset while your mother rode on a pink unicorn, you might get lucky and find a perfect being.
But again, you could hit the jackpot and get someone that strikes the perfect balance between the two.
So what battle would I pick? It’s a tough call but I go with character any day.
But wait! And risk having ugly babies? You love babies!
Yes, and risk having ugly babies – (fingers crossed behind my back)
On the real though, character will take you where beauty won’t. A great personality is more appealing and unlike beauty that fades with time and age, a great personality can last a lifetime. Beauty can take you where character won’t but you’d have to be a billboard model or extremely generous with the goodies in exchange for what you desire.
The bottom line, get your priorities dead on right but prepare for the battle. In my opinion, character is what’s important. Some of the most desirable girls and women I’ve met are no pageant winners or runner ups or contestants for that matter. Wait! They are not even cousins or neighbors to pageant winners. They are far from that, but their hearts of gold, their saintly ways, and refined manners make them some of the most beautiful people to ever walk this earth.