‘I Want A Man Who Is Not After Sex.’ No! You Don’t.

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Single women when asked why they are still single, they often give reasons around how every man they meet just wants sex. Consequentially, they are single till they find a man that is not after sex.

(Walks to a dark corner to let out a hysterical laughter)

Before anything else – that is exactly how you die a childless spinster. Looking for a guide on HOW TO DIE A CHILDLESS SPINSTER? You are in luck, begin by wanting a man who is not after sex. You are old enough to want a man, but you are suddenly too young to want him to want sex!? Double standards, ain’t it?

First things first, sex is essentially a basic need. True; couples can abstain and go without it for years waiting for the ring and the ‘I do,’ but even with that it remains a plain basic need.

Men understand that sex is not just a deed for most women. They want emotions, value and assurance attached to it. When I am with a new girl and she tells me she wants to wait, I’ll let her have all the time she needs. A lot of men do this. However do not take this as a ‘he is not after sex.’ He definitely is, he is just waiting for the both of you to be on the same page.

We are not monsters. Plus we all (both men and women) have people in our lives that just want sex. Good old fashioned HOT steamy sex with a bit of 2016 positions and that’s it.

But when we (men) choose to settle down and focus on building a more meaningful relationship, it doesn’t mean that that raw passion for sex has also taken a backseat and even strapped its seatbelt. F**K no!

We (men) are simply acknowledging the fact that this is a long term commitment and when she gets to that point, lots of sex will begin to happen.

Now, to want a man that is not after sex is biologically impossible. Well, unless you are properly ugly or truly lesbian; – by which some men will still want to get lucky with you. There is just no escape.

A man who is not after sex is not a man you want, trust me. Unless things like orgasms, moaning and mind-blowing sex are not something you fancy; – you liar! A man that is not after sex is not even attracted to you. That beautiful body that gives you your confidence is just another regular undesired body thus you are not attractive.

Do not even begin to lie that you do not want men to be attracted to you. And if you want the attraction best believe that attraction is 100% sexual attraction.

So ladies, if you wake up one day and you feel you want a man who is not after sex, go back to bed. That is only literally possible in your generous dreams. In reality, every man is after sex. We just approach the need differently. We pursue the need for sex differently and that’s the only difference.

What you need is a man that wants to build a solid relationship first. A man that is willing to let the sexual connection grow and eventually, get to the sexing when you feel it is the time.

I know this is said in defensive mode to chase those intending to hit and run. But a hit and run is always definitely your fault. If you feel you want the cookie protected, do not open your castle doors to invite strangers in for coffee. If there is no bread, the cookie will have to go with the coffee.